I was raised to call my mum, emak. It was not until I was perhaps five that I changed to call her Ibu.
I was beginning to read then. I remembered reading a Malay book about a family of a grasshopper. In the book, like any other Malay literature, it used "Ibu" as a term for mum. And it just struck me that the word "Ibu" is just beautiful. Endearing, short and perfect. Cultured yet loving.
The whole idea of the word "Ibu" somehow seemed so romantic to my naive mind than. The idea of changing it is thrilling in the first place. But to have call her Ibu,I think would have fulfilled part of a child's literature dream.
So that's what I did. I asked my mum whether I could call her Ibu instead. My mum, who was probably delighted that I could read, agreed astoundingly.
Now that I am an Ibu myself, I really am at awe with my mum. My children wanted to call me mummy when they were introduced to english books. Unlike my mum who happily agreed, I stood my ground. Ibu it is for you.
I told my mum this, when she was in the ICU. How much I admire her sacrifice of everything. Oh I so remembered her look then. She looked at me in the eyes. She didn't even attempt to say anything. She smiled a bit. Just looking at me babbling. And because we couldn't communicate we really looked at each other. Pity that it took my mum to lose her voice that only then her only daughter would really look into her loving eyes. I can only read love in them.
Lately it somehow struck me, when my kids were making such big fuss over me, calling me Ibu over and over again, I realised, I really won't be calling anyone "Ibu" forever. No one will answer me if I call. Not anymore.
Today is the mark of the 100th day that she left us.
Only prayers that I can offer her. Al Fateheh.
I am missing her just the same.
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9 years ago
13 comments:
Al-fatihah to ur Ibu from me.
I can't imagine me without my mama satu hari nanti. :(
nef - sedang memujuk suami tercinta.
apa aktiviti yang boleh dilakukan eh?
dlt - no no don't imagine. enjoy her as much as u can.
Al Fatehah. I won't have anyone calling me Ibu. Agh.
May Allah bless her soul and place her with the pious. amin...
btb - thanks
jill - alaa jill.. Insya Allah nanti. Nak huuuggggg
uglybutt - Insya Allah
Your mother is lucky to have a daughter like you :)
you're one heck of a strong lady, you know that mum. may Allah bless your mother's soul :)
sharul - i hope so too
anis - wei you calling me mum ka? ha ha ha
yee..aah. i'm afraid if i call you aunty, i might sound inconsiderately sarcastic nyahaha :D
Al fatihah to ur mom..*hugs* to u..
Alfatihah untuk ibu Lollies. semoga Allah menccucuri rahmat ke atasnya.
thank you thank you
just heard of the sad news. my condolonces to you. i may have mispelt that.
may she be within Allah's Grace and Mercy. Ameen.
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